The lesser of two devils?

I clearly remember one of the most well-put metaphors from Dr. Kishore Mahbubani when he was giving a talk on America and China’s fight to become the world’s superpower. The quote goes something along the line of “Either the 2 elephants fight or make love, the ants are going to suffer.” It’s been almost 2 years since…

The Perks of Dating a White Man

They say not everything is about race. But where I’m from or better yet in almost all parts of the world (I darely claim), race is definitely what it is about, especially in today’s political climax. With that to say, there comes many perks of dating a white man. (Before you cringe, read until the…

When I knew he was “the one”!

People like to ask me what how I knew he was “the one (cliche term, I know) or what is the top quality I’m looking for in a guy. My answer is pretty simple “making me happy”. Some would scoff and said “Is that it? Your bar is that low? Is that all you look…

Life is all about making decisions, so is relationship

Relationship doesn’t have to be hard work, but it’s a constant work in progress. But if it’s a hard work from the start, it’s just going to be an uphill battle, so you decide whether you want to keep on fighting the uphill battle because it ain’t gonna get any easier especially when all the…

How Far Have We Really Come?!

Sunday night, I sat between two foreigners watching “First They Killed My Father”, a movie about Cambodia’s darkest day in modern history. It kinda is a strange feeling of guilt to be sitting in a movie theatre and experiencing the hell on earth I know my mother and brother went through. This seems so surreal. …

No Country for Women

There was an instance when I knew that this place is fucked up beyond words to describe. And this US election result reinstates my thoughts. This is not even a safe place for women to have an opinion let alone walking around at night. This is not a safe place for women where a high percentage…

The Danger of Social Conformity

Maybe I’ve been attending too many weddings this month and been getting too many “when is your turn?” questions, the thought of “settling down” and what “success” mean to me starts to trigger my mind. (*I quotemark there as I don’t agree with the definition of settling down meaning marriage or success meaning rating of…

What it feels like to be demotivated when you work as a motivator

So I walked into my office feeling the worst I could possibly feel as a human being. It’s one of those days when you feel so exhausted physically and worst of all emotionally. I have been dealing with loads of horse-craps lately. I’ve felt like maybe I’m almost hitting the bottom. Have you ever plunged…

To Live in a Culture of Misogyny

My phone rang and on the caller ID screen there it showed “Mother”. It has been more than several weeks that I haven’t seen her or talked to her much due to my exam priority. I was disconnected and unplugged from everyone. When I answered the call, “Hi mom, I miss you. I’m sorry for not…

Dear Mr. Perfect (for Me)

I know you’re somewhere out there. But I do not know for sure if I’ll ever meet you or if we can spend the rest of our life together. No matter what, you’re always in my heart and my dream. Even if I end up with the wrong guy. But if you are reading this,…

This Is How I’ll Date You

Originally posted on Thought Catalog:
Taylor Aikins I’ll date you because I choose to. I will desire you with every dawn and I will desire you with every dusk. I will date you because you make me laugh, because despite your flaws and your temperaments, my heart feels safe within your hands. I will date…

To Feel “Blue Like Jazz”

“Before I want to be unique. Now I just want to fit in and be normal again.” My head is numbed with all the thoughts and doubts stirred up by the book. Blue Like Jazz teaches me to let myself be loved and to love others around me. My heart ached tremendously when I read that…